8 Ways Healing Can Be Joyful 

3. Coming Back Into Your Body

A common response to trauma is dissociation⁵—that is, mentally and spiritually disconnecting from ourselves when physical escape isn’t possible. Dissociation is the body’s natural way of protecting us. But when we do this habitually, it becomes our default state. By numbing ourselves to negative emotions, we also numb ourselves to positive ones, diminishing our ability to feel fully engaged with life.

Movement- and touch-based therapies are helpful for reconnecting with the body in a safe and guided way. Many rehabs offer these as part of a holistic treatment program:

• trauma release exercises (TRE)
• massage therapy and bodywork
• trauma-sensitive yoga
• somatic experiencing (SE)
• Reiki

It’s especially important for physical and sexual assault survivors to do this in a trauma-informed setting. And while it may be challenging, it can also be one of the most transformative, and ultimately enjoyable, aspects of the healing process.

By grounding into our bodies and staying present with ourselves, others, and the world around us, we experience more of what life has to offer.

4. Practicing New Ways of Doing Things

Changing long-held patterns means dealing with life in ways that don’t rely on old coping mechanisms—and that can feel awkward at first. Thankfully, rehab is a great place to practice. Whether it’s letting yourself cry instead of looking for a distraction, or talking through a problem with a recovery peer instead of stewing in resentment, you’ll get to try new approaches until you find what works for you. And, you’ll have encouragement from counselors and support staff along the way.

By the end of your stay, you’ll be empowered with new knowledge of how to navigate relationships that you can take with you into the real world and continue to build on.

5. Setting Healthy Boundaries

“We get our needs met by communicating them. And that can be really hard,” says Nedra Glover Tawwab, therapist and author of Set Boundaries, Find Peace.

Boundary-setting sounds easy, but in reality, it’s an advanced skill. Insecure attachment (a result of childhood trauma) tells us that if we upset our loved ones, they might leave. And that makes it hard to state a need or preference when you’re unsure how the other person will take it.

“Boundaries are statements that make you feel safe and comfortable in your relationships,”⁶ says Tawwab. And, contrary to what our fears tell us, they help to preserve them. Learning to tolerate the discomfort that often follows these statements takes time. With practice, you’ll see how boundaries set a healthier tone for your relationships and create the space necessary for you to meet your needs. This grows your sense of ownership over your life—and what’s more rewarding than that?

6. Discovering Therapies That Resonate With You

Residential rehab gives you a chance to try healing modalities that you may not have otherwise. You may find that you relate to the philosophy behind DBT, that acupuncture reduces your cravings, or that the path of yoga aligns with your recovery journey. Hopefully, you’ll walk away from rehab with resources for ongoing therapy, which can lead to a beneficial relationship with a new therapist.

Many rehabs include complementary therapies as part of their treatment program, even if it’s clinically based. Often, patients choose to continue with therapies or activities they find helpful, adding to their fulfillment in life after rehab.

7. Knowing Where to Turn When Things Get Rough

Being healed doesn’t mean hardship stops happening. It means you get better at dealing with it.

In addition to treating your symptoms, rehab also provides a training ground for life. Most residential programs have a 28-day minimum because this allows enough time to establish a rhythm in a new, healthy routine. Much of your time in treatment is spent building a toolkit of healthy outlets, coping strategies, and connections you can turn to when you need them. These can include exercises for self-soothing, processing, or releasing emotions; connections for professional care; sober community; and restored relationships with your loved ones.

8. Learning Self-Love

Addiction is a form of self-harm, and is often fueled by negative self-talk.⁷ The healing process teaches us now to recognize when we’re telling ourselves a story, ask whether that story is accurate, and replace it with a more helpful belief. Especially when we have less than nurturing childhoods, we get the message that self-criticism will help us achieve the change we desire. But what if all it achieves is turning us against ourselves?

“We are often at war with our difficult emotions—judging and hating ourselves for our fear, anger, clinging or shame,” says meditation teacher Tara Brach. But “our continued evolution, healing and freedom depends on learning how to embrace what we have pushed away.⁸

We deserve love, even when we’re not exactly where we want to be. The journey toward healing is a lifelong process—and approaching it with acceptance and self-compassion helps us find joy in it all.

Longtime yogi Richard Rosen challenges the idea that we have to punish ourselves in pursuit of progress: “But must the process of ending sorrow be sorrowful itself?…What about the idea that our effort toward happiness can itself make us happy?”⁹

Reclaiming Your Happiness in Recovery

We may never fully “arrive,” but things can get better and easier along the way, and we can learn to enjoy the ride.

Rehab can be a great place to start. An immersive environment gives you space to do this vulnerable work in a safe, supported way, with all the necessary tools at your fingertips.

Browse our searchable directory of residential rehabs to learn more about their programs, facilities, and staff, and reach out to centers directly.

Reviewed by Rajnandini Rathod

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